Formula for Magnetism

I’ve known a lot of witches in my life.

Women who have an uncanny ability to get what they want.

Often they are sexual. Emotional. Feel a lot. And act mostly on faith. (Some would say irrational).

I’ve seen some “manifest” some crazy things—both good and bad, actually.

I’ve been thinking about such people, and periods of my life where I seemed magnetic.

Is there a formula for getting your way (with people or circumstances)?

In my experience, there are certain qualities that make someone particularly magnetic in this sense.

I draw from the physics formula for literal magnetism,

B = μ n I (Strength of magnetic field = Permeability x Number of coils x Current)

an actionable metaphor,

Personal Magnetism = Alignment x Structure x Feeling

We can liken this kind of magnetism, simply to charisma and influence…nothing magical there.

We can take it a step further a la Franz Mesmer’s Animal Magnetism

We can say that since most of modern life involves transacting with people, to have this magnetic quality (if only “good vibes”) you get better leverage on your efforts—more results from less work.

I hesitate to stretch this metaphor into total magical thinking land. But when in the periods of my life when I really lived by these principles, I had a lot of very random lucky coincidences:

• A dating app called Hily (still exists apparently) offered me thousands of dollars out of nowhere to send them videos of me rambling about dating.
• Different women I had crushed on from afar randomly initiated contact with me. One even happened to be traveling to the obscure town of Southeast Asia that I was staying in.
• I received multiple offers to appear in major media.
• Later, my biggest crush offering to give me love advice out of nowhere. (She has since become my wife.)

I’ll leave it you to decide what to take as causality vs. coincidence.