You think if you are extra hard on yourself
it will motivate you to do better.
But the opposite is true:
The more you make yourself feel bad,
the more you unconsciously do things to justify bad feelings.
Shame kills your mojo more than anything else.
Shame kills performance.
It disconnects from your instincts and your “soul.”
This episode is on freeing yourself from shame considering:
- Evolutionary basis of this social emotion.
- Why it backfires on you. (“Emotional logic” fallacy.)
- A simple but profound solution from the “father of modern therapy,” Dr. Carl Rogers.
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Ruwan Meepagala has coached hundreds of men succeed with women since 2013. His Ruwando Podcast: Psychology for Men with Brains and Balls has reached hundreds of thousands since its creation. Originally from New York, he’s lived all over the world and currently resides in Spain with his wife and two kids.
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